"try to think as if I died when I was little, and was buried somewhere."

It was common for 'respectable' families to reject any family member who brought any disgrace or scandal upon the family. For example, the British Royal Family largely isolated the former Edward VIII (1894-1972) when he disgraced the family by abdicating in 1936 in order to wed the twice divorced, Wallis Simpson (1896-1986).