"that obedience to the etiquette of death"
by cm

Victorian death and mourning practices were elaborate.  The appropriate clothes, jewellry, condolence letters and duration of mourning were firmly prescribed.  Graves and tombs were often extravagant in size and sculpture.

Read Mourning and Funeral Usages, Harpers Bazaar 1886

A particularly peculiar Victorian habit was post-mortem photography.  For poorer subjects, this memento mori might be the only photograph ever taken of them.  A creepy assemblage of death photographs can be found here.